My Black is Beautiful
I
would like to say that I am African American. Throughout this essay I may only
say African, and it is because I am talking to all Africans and African
descendants around the world.
My fellow Africans… not all but majority is not as honored
about their heritage as they should be. Why? Why is it that everyone else can
praise their own heritage except for us? We are, to be quite honest, the most
exotic, the strongest, and the most wanted ethnic group ever. Why can’t we be
happy about that? Well, let me tell you why I think we think that way and why
we need to change this mentality.
When you think of the word exotic you think of some foreign
beauty. Well baby, you can’t get more foreign than being African. No one looks
like us and to show any of our qualities you have to have some part of our
bloodline in yours. Our shades range from the bluest of black to damn near
Caucasian. Our hair is amazing…. I can talk about that for days. We can do so
much with our hair; we can fro it out. We can wear it curly. We can even
straighten it. However, our culture does this thing called “relaxing”. I think
this is so damaging to our hair, but with society’s view on what is beauty; we
first started this torturous process because we felt it was needed to feel
pretty. This is the furthest from the truth. However we have been doing it for
so long that we have forgotten how to handle our virgin hair and now we relax
for the convenience. We relax because it’s what we know and what is easier. I
hate to hear a female say, “Oh, natural isn’t for everybody.” No, that’s the
kind of thing society loves to hear. An African rejecting the gifts God gave
them. I just respond with, “No, Everyone isn’t for natural. If you are too lazy
to learn how to care for your natural hair then yes you would have a hard time
being natural.” If you took the time to learn your hair you could end up simply
washing your hair, giving it a quick squeeze and shake and be headed out the
door. By all means if getting your hair relaxed is what you like then go ahead
it is just hair. The point I’m trying to make is that we shouldn’t use it as a
crutch to look pretty. From birth we were given a rare gift and we should
accept that.
Side Bar: One year I had taken a trip
to New Orleans during Essence Festival and I was talking to my friend. She was
telling me how she needs a perm to get her hair light and flowy like the woman
sitting next to me. I looked at the woman. Her hair was straight and thick. It
was about shoulder length or a little longer with highlights. I glanced back at
my friend and simply said, “She’s natural.” My friend did not believe me so me
being the type of person I am I asked the woman and she only proved my
assumption. I thanked her for telling me and that ended my conversation with my
friend.
I would like to say that I am not bashing other ethnicities but more like empowering my own. In saying that I am not fully aware of others
struggles, but with the knowledge I have of my own we have got to be one of the
strongest if not the strongest race ever.
We went from being seen as products and treated worse than stray dogs to
being CEO’s of fortune 500 companies… Hell we have a president, who claims his
African side, of that same country that kidnapped us from our homeland and
enslaved us for more than 300 years. If we as Africans can’t be proud of that,
then what can we do to make ourselves happy. So many died for us so that we can
see this day and yet because we loathe… and feel so ashamed of our heritage it
is like we just take that for granted. I feel like sometimes our people feel as
though we do not deserve better. It is
like we have been beat down for so long that we have to do it to ourselves to
feel like it’s the norm, and then we blame it on society. We pass this on to
our children and don’t even know it. We then look at the next generation and
shake our heads at them, but instead of criticizing we need to inform. As
mothers and fathers if you teach them that life has dealt them a bad hand, growing
up African American, don’t you think they are going to feel as though they have
nothing to lose, so they might as well play? Well, we have everything to lose.
Our ancestors built this country. Our ancestors fought for you to see a better
tomorrow. They gave you the wings and for heaven’s sake use them and FLY. You
deserve so much more than you expect. If where you are is not giving you the
knowledge you need to succeed then you go seek it. Your ancestors showed that
they had the power to deal with the cruelest life imaginable for a human being.
We don’t have that shackle now, and with the strength we were given at birth we
should feel limitless.
Society also has us thinking that if you are African you are
ugly… undesirable. Have you taken a really good look at yourself lately? You
are beautiful. Our men are strong and powerful. When I see an African man I
think of a sexy warrior. If you have ever watched Everybody Hates Chris you will
remember the teacher, who believed the “black” stereotypes, secretly coveted African men. I bet
if she was not raised with those beliefs she would have definitely dated
one. In real life, that is how a lot of
people think. Our African women ooze sex appeal; we are goddesses and the most
desired females and don’t even know it. Have you noticed the trend of lip
plumping and booty injecting. These are our God given attributes and while
people are paying thousands of dollars to get it; they are also ostracizing us
for it. We need to realize that we are coveted and walk with our heads held
high. The same society that’s telling you to be ashamed of who you are secretly
wants you. We have to change that. We have to see our self-worth and believe in
it. Give that praise and those
secrets will surely come out the closet.
I am not the arrogant type. I just had an epiphany of
sorts. I realized that society has painted this bleak picture of our people,
and we have been falling for it for years. We have to remember that we come
from a land where we too had kings and queens and they were African. Their skin was just like ours and their smile
was big and wide because of it. We have to remember that we are exotic, we are
strong, and we are wanted. Once we realize that we will be unstoppable.
Word from Ash:
This has really been on my heart to write, and I have been wanting to for the longest. It's just that I've heard so many talk about how much they want to be another race and I feel that you were put where God intended you to be. I feel so powerful being of African descent and I don't know how so many feel that this is the worst you can be. I did not want to get into the light vs. dark skin thing, because at the end of the day we are all Africans and we should be as one. Forget what you have heard and seen on radio and television. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in God's eyes we are all beautiful.
What do you think? Do you love your ethnicity? I would like to really know your thoughts.
Thanks for Reading :)
